Rob says something smart
Apr. 4th, 2012 09:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
http://www.freewillastrology.com/horoscopes/scorpio.html
Scorpio Horoscope for week of April 5, 2012
People in intimate relationships are hypersensitive to negative comments from their partners. Psychologists say it takes five compliments to outweigh the effects of a single dash of derogatory criticism. I'm sure the ratio is similar even for relationships that aren't as close as lovers and spouses. With this in mind, I urge you to be extra careful not to dispense barbs. They would be especially damaging during this phase of your astrological cycle -- both to you and to those at whom you direct them. Instead, Scorpio, why not dole out an abundance of compliments? They will build up a reservoir of goodwill you'll be able to draw on for a long time.
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I will be careful.
Scorpio Horoscope for week of April 5, 2012
People in intimate relationships are hypersensitive to negative comments from their partners. Psychologists say it takes five compliments to outweigh the effects of a single dash of derogatory criticism. I'm sure the ratio is similar even for relationships that aren't as close as lovers and spouses. With this in mind, I urge you to be extra careful not to dispense barbs. They would be especially damaging during this phase of your astrological cycle -- both to you and to those at whom you direct them. Instead, Scorpio, why not dole out an abundance of compliments? They will build up a reservoir of goodwill you'll be able to draw on for a long time.
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I will be careful.
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Date: 2012-04-05 11:38 am (UTC)And it isn't just words but all communication. So 5 positive messages to one negative.
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Date: 2012-04-05 12:05 pm (UTC)After so many years, I've also come to a place where I don't actually want to invest in relationships with a big proportion of negative, harsh, angry or judgemental communications. I just walk away. I don't want to be angry or hateful back. I don't think harsh communication means that people are bad. That's silly.
But it is deeply wearying to stay present with people over and over again while they pound on you emotionally. After a few repetitions of this kind of thing, it becomes clear that it's one of their patterns, and I should consider pulling back and letting them work it out with someone stronger, who has a higher tolerance for such things.
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Date: 2012-04-05 12:10 pm (UTC)But change is possible!
Through a lot of experience, listening, watching, reading and learning, I've co-created something different. In my household now, we exchange many positive messages and few negative ones. Thank gods. I have no endurance for the other way.