Because I love you (and love myself)
Mar. 24th, 2012 09:20 amTen ways to say no respectfully (adapt to your own particular circumstances):
1. That sounds like a really great opportunity, but I just cannot take on any additional commitments at this time.
2. I am not comfortable with that ______________ (situation, talk, group of people involved).
3. I feel overwhelmed by service right now, so I am going to have to decline your generous invitation.
4. I am in the middle of _________________, ____________________, and ____________________, and if I get tenure, I am unable to take on any additional service.
5. I am not the best person for this. Why don't you ask _________________?
6. If you can find a way of eliminating one of my existing service obligations, I will consider your request.
7. I would rather say no to your request than do a halfhearted job on your committee.
8. Right now, I need to focus on my research agenda and publication. When I have tenure, I hope to be able to say yes to requests like this one.
9. I cannot serve on your committee right now. But why don't you ask me again next year?
10. No. (Look the asker in the eye and sit in silence.)
The Black Academic's Guide to Winning Tenure----Without Losing Your Soul, Kerry Ann Rockquemore and Tracy Laszliffy, p. 119
1. That sounds like a really great opportunity, but I just cannot take on any additional commitments at this time.
2. I am not comfortable with that ______________ (situation, talk, group of people involved).
3. I feel overwhelmed by service right now, so I am going to have to decline your generous invitation.
4. I am in the middle of _________________, ____________________, and ____________________, and if I get tenure, I am unable to take on any additional service.
5. I am not the best person for this. Why don't you ask _________________?
6. If you can find a way of eliminating one of my existing service obligations, I will consider your request.
7. I would rather say no to your request than do a halfhearted job on your committee.
8. Right now, I need to focus on my research agenda and publication. When I have tenure, I hope to be able to say yes to requests like this one.
9. I cannot serve on your committee right now. But why don't you ask me again next year?
10. No. (Look the asker in the eye and sit in silence.)
The Black Academic's Guide to Winning Tenure----Without Losing Your Soul, Kerry Ann Rockquemore and Tracy Laszliffy, p. 119