Update

[sabrinamari]

Hanging in there. Last night I had important talks with two friends, each of whom really helped me to see something---more than one thing---that is really important.

Exciting news: I am working on getting a cool apartment, possibly with a friend. Hurray!

Ken and I are learning more and more everyday about who we are and what we really want. This is so hard. At least we agree that we still want each other, just not as spouses.

Still, it really hurts. This afternooon, he called me because he was sad and he missed me at the exact moment that I first thought "I feel so sad. I miss him," for the day.

Please please please let us get past jealousy quickly and effectively with each other in the years to come so that we can still be close to each other after we start seeing other people romantically.

deep sigh.

Comments

Re: Hurting and Healing

[oakleaves.livejournal.com]

This might sting:

Experience has taught me that it usually takes at least one third of the time a couple was together before each have truly moved on enough to feel completely and fully liberated from all the pain and angst of a breakup. Now, you and Ken each possess excellent skills together, and you have the benefit of having already begun Good Communication, so it likely would not be that long for you... but it could be something worth keeping in the back of your mind. Hugs.