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Apr. 11th, 2012 08:41 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sabrinamariThe Most Important Financial Advice You'll Ever Get
Every time you do something different, every time you deviate from the norm, every time you break a habit or end a pattern, your brain cries, "Stop! This doesn't feel right! Don't do it!"
DO NOT LISTEN.
The number one requirement for financial success (or success in anything for that matter) is simply this: You've got to be willing to be uncomfortable. Or, as Eastern wisdom advocates, "Embrace what does not come naturally. Only then will you stop limiting yourself."
Discomfort is an automatic response to anything out of the ordinary. The ability to tolerate discomfort is absolutely essential to go on to the next level in any area of your life. Anxiety, fear, nervousness, resistance...all these are normal reactions to new situations. It need not mean something's wrong. It just means that something is different. Or as my wonderful therapist, Rosalie Thomas, would say to me, "Recognize you're tapping into the challenge of change."
The challenge of change almost always elicits the same response. "This is sooo hard." I hear it all the time in the workshops as we discuss the steps and what we need to do. I call it the Underearner Whine. My response never varies. "This is not hard. It's easy. But it is uncomfortable."
"I really like how you kept saying, 'you are going to be uncomfortable,' " Sally Beckett told me. "I now see that fear is a indicator, not of something to avoid, but something to approach. I don't think as adults we can experience true change without some form of fear, pain and discomfort. Because if it was easy to change, we all would have done it."
Actually, Sally, it is easy. It's just not comfortable.
---from Overcoming Underearning: A Five-Step Plan to a Richer Life, Barbara Stanny, pp. 56-57
Every time you do something different, every time you deviate from the norm, every time you break a habit or end a pattern, your brain cries, "Stop! This doesn't feel right! Don't do it!"
DO NOT LISTEN.
The number one requirement for financial success (or success in anything for that matter) is simply this: You've got to be willing to be uncomfortable. Or, as Eastern wisdom advocates, "Embrace what does not come naturally. Only then will you stop limiting yourself."
Discomfort is an automatic response to anything out of the ordinary. The ability to tolerate discomfort is absolutely essential to go on to the next level in any area of your life. Anxiety, fear, nervousness, resistance...all these are normal reactions to new situations. It need not mean something's wrong. It just means that something is different. Or as my wonderful therapist, Rosalie Thomas, would say to me, "Recognize you're tapping into the challenge of change."
The challenge of change almost always elicits the same response. "This is sooo hard." I hear it all the time in the workshops as we discuss the steps and what we need to do. I call it the Underearner Whine. My response never varies. "This is not hard. It's easy. But it is uncomfortable."
"I really like how you kept saying, 'you are going to be uncomfortable,' " Sally Beckett told me. "I now see that fear is a indicator, not of something to avoid, but something to approach. I don't think as adults we can experience true change without some form of fear, pain and discomfort. Because if it was easy to change, we all would have done it."
Actually, Sally, it is easy. It's just not comfortable.
---from Overcoming Underearning: A Five-Step Plan to a Richer Life, Barbara Stanny, pp. 56-57
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Date: 2012-04-11 01:16 pm (UTC)I understand the fear and know the feeling, but sometimes you just have to overcome it!
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Date: 2012-04-11 01:26 pm (UTC)Making Changes
Date: 2012-04-11 03:39 pm (UTC)Re: Making Changes
Date: 2012-04-11 04:11 pm (UTC)Right now, I'm right at the 60% uncomfortable mark, and about to go up above that. There's not a single important area in my life free of discomfort right now.
Today is super-uncomfortable.
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Date: 2012-04-11 04:22 pm (UTC)Not every change should be as easy as changing your underwear.
The way to become more comfortable is to get used to making changes, and to realize that even when you make a bad change, the results are not as bad as what you feared. And you can change again.
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Date: 2012-04-11 07:00 pm (UTC)Yes, and in fact, change is an ongoing, evolving thing.
There is no ground.