Quick Tarot repost answering a question
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sabrinamariWhat do reversed court cards mean?
For me, reversed court cards refer to people in pain and people who are actively struggling with fear.
Each suit's reversed court cards can represents a different style of coping with pain: the cups get codependent, mopey and depressed, sometimes detouring into heavy self-medication; the discs get inflexible, bossy and judgmental; the swords get mean and stick their verbal "swords" in cruelly, and the wands get angry, frustrated and strike out in explosive and/or unpredictable ways when struggling with fear and stress.
Nobody in the world gets to avoid responding to others in at least one of these ways when under stress, because no one gets to avoid fear and pain. Often, we have two favorites styles.
Getting a reversed court card is like a warning: this is your pattern of responding to pain. Be on the alert for those particular ways in which you are likely to slip into it. Know that right now, you are facing the kind of challenge that can push you into your pattern. Start looking for coping strategies to help you transform your default responses into something healthier and more helpful.
Also take a moment to be happy about the ways in which you are LESS likely to respond to stress: if you are bummed because you got the reversed Queen of Cups, for example, you're not likely abandon the people around you. You probably won't explode in an unpredictable fit of frustration. You are less likely to stab out in words based on sheer pain. You probably won't retreat into a totally inflexible, uncooperative mindset when the going gets really hard. You just have to learn to manage your codependency, reduce your your moping and depression and lay off the self-medication.
So even in reversals, there is some good news.
For me, reversed court cards refer to people in pain and people who are actively struggling with fear.
Each suit's reversed court cards can represents a different style of coping with pain: the cups get codependent, mopey and depressed, sometimes detouring into heavy self-medication; the discs get inflexible, bossy and judgmental; the swords get mean and stick their verbal "swords" in cruelly, and the wands get angry, frustrated and strike out in explosive and/or unpredictable ways when struggling with fear and stress.
Nobody in the world gets to avoid responding to others in at least one of these ways when under stress, because no one gets to avoid fear and pain. Often, we have two favorites styles.
Getting a reversed court card is like a warning: this is your pattern of responding to pain. Be on the alert for those particular ways in which you are likely to slip into it. Know that right now, you are facing the kind of challenge that can push you into your pattern. Start looking for coping strategies to help you transform your default responses into something healthier and more helpful.
Also take a moment to be happy about the ways in which you are LESS likely to respond to stress: if you are bummed because you got the reversed Queen of Cups, for example, you're not likely abandon the people around you. You probably won't explode in an unpredictable fit of frustration. You are less likely to stab out in words based on sheer pain. You probably won't retreat into a totally inflexible, uncooperative mindset when the going gets really hard. You just have to learn to manage your codependency, reduce your your moping and depression and lay off the self-medication.
So even in reversals, there is some good news.
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Date: 2012-02-28 05:50 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-02-28 06:08 pm (UTC)Great gifts/assets often come with great shadows, but I believe that a commitment to grappling with them is what actually *makes* people great.
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Date: 2012-02-28 06:12 pm (UTC)Hey I noticed you friended us. Friended you back. Good to meet you.
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Date: 2012-02-28 06:15 pm (UTC)Reversed Queen
Date: 2012-02-28 10:14 pm (UTC)Re: Reversed Queen
Date: 2012-02-28 11:56 pm (UTC)The Queen of Swords has the huge advantage of bringing her intellect to bear on her issues. I've seen you do this a dozen times, at least, on LJ.
I am a Queen of Cups girl all the way, given to sadness, tears, withdrawal and depression. And I don't have enough self-knowledge at this moment to really know what my other favorite pattern. Ask any of my local friends. They'll all know. In detail.
Hell, you probably know. : )
Feel free to tell me about it. It will probably cheer me up.
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Date: 2012-02-29 01:11 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-02-29 01:16 am (UTC)That's what you guys are for: to help me see myself, grow up and become a mature human being.
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Date: 2012-02-29 01:38 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-02-29 12:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-02-29 04:43 pm (UTC)My mother was a swords queen.
I'll be happy to have a brief temporary reprieve in uncomfortable realizations, anytime now---maybe just a 24-hour respite?
Because of course, it is *now* that I need to start thinking about how many of my swords queen friends have been at least partly chosen out of an unconscious compulsion to try and make my mother love me, or at least be nice to me?
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Date: 2012-03-02 02:28 pm (UTC)Knowing your Shadow
Date: 2012-03-02 02:31 pm (UTC)Someday I think I would like to be brave enough to have a "shadow" party where very select guests greet and introduce our shadows to one another. Oh that would be so powerful. We rest so much of our power in our shadows - if we can draw it out and transform it - well, watch out!