Looking for Suggestions/Thinking about Valentine's Day

[sabrinamari]

I've been thinking about Valentine's day for awhile, and strangely, I don't feel bad or upset about this rapidly approaching couple's holiday. What I *don't* feel surprises me more than what I *do* feel.

I would expect to feel:

sad
hurt
weepy
mournful
angry
depressed
resentful of the holiday
bitter about love and relationships
betrayed, etc., etc., etc.

But I don't. : ) Instead I feel expectant, attentive and curious.

I want to celebrate in some way that evening, because I think that just letting the day pass by consciously unmarked might indeed bring me down. So I want to do something fun. But I don't really want to have an Anti-Valentine's Day bash, or anything like that. Just because I'm not in good relationship now doesn't mean that I'll never be in one, so I don't want to knock the concept of romantic joy and happiness, 'cause I expect to benefit from it sometime in the not-so-distant future.

So I'm thinking about what to do. Whatever it is, it should be playful, happy---preferably silly---celebrating the fabulous and happy love life that I and my friends will be enjoying in the years to come. It should make me/us feel sexy, happy, expectant, excited, delighted and even thrilled at the prospect of healthy, happy love to come. It should feel *sweet*.

Can anyone help me out by suggesting specific ideas? In the past, I've received wonderful advice and great suggestions from my LJ-enabled friends, so I thought I'd come back for more.

What do you think, dear ones? All suggestions happily welcomed!

Comments

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

How about a Lupercalia party? We all gather at your house to make a sacrifice and then chase two gorgeous naked youths around the apartment, flogging them lightly as we catch them, and then we eat until we throw up.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I am all for the gorgeous naked youths! Perhaps, though, we can eat lightly and enjoy every bite. : )


Hmmm, now where can we find gorgeous naked youths?

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

I mooted the idea to T. He says that technically he is not a youth, and he says it's too cold for us to make him run around naked. I say he's being silly.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

hee hee!

Romance and pamper yourself

[effloresense.livejournal.com]

Buy yourself flowers and candy
Make your favorite lush meal
Enjoy a decadent candlelit bubble bath with champagne
Get a full service pedicure
Get dolled up with friends and go dancing
What else would you do that showed you that you loved yourself? :)

Re: Romance and pamper yourself

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

Now that's a damn fine idea.

Re: Romance and pamper yourself

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Great ideas! Flowers will be purchased to decorate the house, lovely tasty bites can be prepared and shared----and dancing could be a possibility!

[willowoak.livejournal.com]

this a totally silly suggestion, but years ago my roommate and I had a *fantasy* party on V-day four ourselves and all our non-attached friends, you know, sex toys and lingerie. We had a great time. We laughed and giggled and ate lovely food.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

What a great idea! We could dress provocatively and laugh and admire each other over tasty delicacies.

[methastra.livejournal.com]

> Just because I'm not in good relationship now

Sounds like you're developing a real good relationship--with yourself, now that you're (even more importantly) not in a bad relationship with someone else!

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

:::Applause:::

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Whoah...impressively wise observation!

Took the words right outta my mouth...

[warning-dca.livejournal.com]

Huzzah!

[stephandcurtis.livejournal.com]

I'm all for the naked youths, however, it's the finding of willing participants that may take a bit of work. A night of pampering oneself is always good, schedule a massage, a pedicure (passionate purple toes would be delicious!), a hot mud bath! Hmmm, as for the lingerie/toys party - ever thought of finding an adult club and going with a bunch of girlfriends, just to see what is out there, and possible . . .? Is there an adult toy shoppe in the area that is offering classes, that could be a wild night out, too! Dancing afterwards to work off all that sexy energy! Wish I could be there to celebrate, no matter what fun the night turns out to be!

[dragonflycai.livejournal.com]

When i'm single (and sometimes when i'm not), i "date" myself. It started once after a very difficult breakup, and was so satisfying that i pick it up whenever i feel low.

Basically, it's the idea of treating myself to the pleasures and delights that make me happy, to look at myself from without and ask what gifts and activities would make "this person" (um, me) smile with delight and inspire feelings of love toward the giver. But instead of the attitude of buying or doing something because i "want" it, it's more about indulging myself with an attitude of love.

I hope you have a lovely day, whatever you decide to do. :)

[skyefyr.livejournal.com]

I haven't celebrated valentines day in years (long story). But if you want to get together, just say the word! I'm up to dinner and a movie or dancing if you want to do a single girls night!