Sabrina Mari's communication guidelines

[sabrinamari]

Blue Star students/peeps: I know that I am not always easy to pin down for face time. Please understand that I want to work with you and make sure that you get what you need from me. To help us accomplish these goals together, please follow these general guidelines in communicating with me:

1. If you want time with me, please send me a clear request, noting what you want and when you would ideally like to have it. If you need class or class follow-up time, please note this clearly. List specific classes or topics that you'd like to address.

I will pay closer attention to clear, direct requests than to general, vague comments. The more clearly you lay out what you want, the more likely you are to get it.

2. Advance warning, if you have it, is always good.

3. Be nice. Spending time with me is a pleasure and a privilege. You don't get to strong-arm me into spending time with you. The more rudely you push me, the less time you will get. The kinder and more gracious you are in speaking to me, the more time you will get.

4. It helps your case tremendously if you can offer me something good, too, instead of just demanding what you want from me.

If you have questions about these guidelines, please text or email me.

Thanks.

Comments

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

I demand to massage your feet!

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

That is a very reasonable request. I will happily discuss it with you this week. When are you free to chat?

Bwahahahaha! Bwahahahahaha!

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

When am I free to chat? These days I'm spending 24 hours, 7 days parked on the sofa in my living room. Some days Brian drives to to see my surgeon. Honey, when it comes to chatting I am free as a bird. I'm dying to talk to you. Let's work around your schedule.

Re: Bwahahahaha! Bwahahahahaha!

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

And may I mention that seeing you post at 4:00 AM the other day filled me with love and admiration and joy? I was hopong you were still online so I could chat you up, but facebook said you weren't.

Re: Bwahahahaha! Bwahahahahaha!

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I hopped on just to post and got off again in an attempt to sleep.

Re: Bwahahahaha! Bwahahahahaha!

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I am available this afternoon around 1:00-1:30. Please call my cell.

Re: Bwahahahaha! Bwahahahahaha!

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

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[the-smith-e.livejournal.com]

Well, I am not a student or in Blue Star but "hi" and I hope to see you again at some point in the future. :)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

That would be lovely. You can find me at Ramblewood's Beltane and FSG.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Grab me when you find me and nail down a time to talk, so the festival doesn't get away from us. There are always people around, so you'll have to walk right up and start talking with me. Don't wait till you see me alone, because it won't happen.

[the-smith-e.livejournal.com]

Well, I agree that didn't work before but I didn't realize that I was scaring you way back when. :)

Will do. Still trying to nail down FSG.

[catpaw67.livejournal.com]

So promises of sushi and massage are welcome, right?

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Yes. You know what I like.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Also, may I have an evening of your time in March or April? Or maybe I can come to the next Hearth Keeper's retreat early so we can talk and plan for the coming year.

[akrissy.livejournal.com]

reiki and yummy foods promised.
And I just want to hear about your adventure and see your light shine as you tell your tale.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

You, my dear, need to send me a list of week day evenings that are available to talk over the next two weeks.

I promise I'll tell you all about my adventure and shine shine shine after we talk about your progress towards Neophyte.

[akrissy.livejournal.com]

Win - Win !

[sligoe.livejournal.com]

I'd be overjoyed at face time! I'll be happy with a phone call, at your convenience, once you're all settled in at home.

I can promise surprises in the mail for now---and when we DO get face time, yummy treats and all sorts of massages.

And lots of cyber hugs. :)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Hi honey. Thank you for your patience. I will call you on Monday and we can look our curricula together and lay out a plan for the next three months. Hugging you!

[jasminewind.livejournal.com]

Those are very clear and achievable guidelines for communication. Good for you!

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I was inspired to clarify what I needed after a less-than-optimal communication session this morning.

The whole experience has actually produced excellent results for everyone, as expectations have been clarified and peace has returned to the valley. A little conflict is a good thing for setting up future happiness.

[jasminewind.livejournal.com]

A little conflict is a good thing for setting up future happiness.

I hear that!

[meadmaker.livejournal.com]

2. Advance warning, if you have it, is always good.

I suggest a corollary:

• Anyone who previously had time for advanced warning and failed to use it will be beaten using a wet noodle.

I suggest you come up with whatever punishment you see fit :)

Missing you from Massachusetts!

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Laughing

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Nah. I'm not into punishment. Wasting time on blaming and shaming people for not giving me what I want does not get me any closer to pleasure and happiness, and I'm all about snuggling into pleasure and happiness.

Better to spend my time on actions that bring me closer to my goals, and leave punishment aside.

[deboranter.livejournal.com]

I don't want anything from you. I just wanted to say hi.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Hugging you.

[ingridsummers.livejournal.com]

I can't decide how to respond. My first thought was to craft a vague request to have you come visit. But, realistically, I know that's not happening.

Then, I began to think about "well, what would I do with Sabrina?" Remember pizza dinner in Philly where we just talked and talked? That's what I'd like to do again. Food and talk. Although, good ritual is attractive, too.

I wonder if I can schedule some time to simply be together at FSG this summer. Maybe talk about work, visions for the future and how we might help one another. Perhaps plot a ritual adventure. Who knows, maybe simply be together in silence.

Hugs!

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I would love to set aside time to just to be together at FSG. In fact, I'd like to do that sooner rather than later, because I know that requests for my time will begin to snowball as June approaches.

My vote: I think we should set aside a whole two hours on the first day that we'll both be at Ramblewood to spend time together. That way, there will be little to derail us. What's the first day of that week that you are likely to be at camp?

I'm guessing that I'll be there either on Tuesday the 14th or Wednesday the 15th.

I'll hold a spot for you if you tell me when you can meet me.

[ingridsummers.livejournal.com]

We plan to arrive on Tuesday, but I don't know the timing right now. It will depend on whether we're visiting with Kayla prior or my friend Haz in DC.

I think at this point early Wednesday would be better. You set the time - I'm usually up much earlier than anyone else. :)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I think 12:00 Wednesday is good. We can sneak off and eat together and talk.

[ingridsummers.livejournal.com]

It's a date.

[tigira.livejournal.com]

I love getting to spend time with you, but know that you and I are both crazy busy.

More thoughts are obviously required along this line. I will ponder.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Very good---let me know when you have an idea of your options.

[klytus.livejournal.com]

Ya know, if Beltane and FSG are anything like FoV, I won't have to go looking for you... because you'll be the one hunting me down to recharge your spiritual batteries ;-)

Which, by the way, I am always happy to do.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Honey, you are one of the very few people who can give me what I most crave: grounding, support and balance. You do it quietly, without even trying, on an energetic level.

I think you have lots of earth and metal in you.

I am hoping you'll continue to serve as the anchor for the Temple of the Cauldron this year. You did a spectacular job of it last year.

[klytus.livejournal.com]

May the day soon come for you when you have enough grounding and balance of your own, that you'll not need me (or any other external source) to give them to you.

But until that day comes, I am happy to give you what I am able when you ask.

Would you believe that my strongest elements are fire and water?

And it would take an angry mob with torches and pitchforks to make me even consider staying away from FoV and/or not working the Cauldron again :)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

You are absolutely right to wish me enough balance to ground myself on my own. That's something I'm heading towards with real determination.


However, I think I'll always favor people whom I experience as solid, grounding and supportive. Maybe, though, I can learn to lean on them less and give them more.

I'm really surprised at the fire and water. I see the water in your communication and connection skills. I'm fuzzy on the fire. Hmmmm. I bet the metal is in there.

I'm glad you are staying with Cauldron. We need a strong anchor, and at this time, someone other than myself must provide it. Thank you.

[klytus.livejournal.com]

I'm more aligned with the four Hermetic Elements than the Five Eastern Elements.

My Sun sign is Leo. Lion is my power animal. I run warmer than most under normal circumstances, but when I move energy and/or do Reiki, I get even warmer (especially my hands). When I move energy, it manifests in my mind's eye as fire. Plus,of course, fire is passion, and I have a lot of passion... just ask shesqueals ;-)

Under the guidance of a very wise lady I know, I was directed to find more balance with water, which is all about emotions and healing. As I've been doing more healing work, my affinity with water has grown much stronger, and now that ties into my healing and energy work as well.

And, at FoV, I re-learned the lesson of simply giving freely from a place of unconditional love. Being able to give energy, grounding, and balance to you, Robin, and others the way I did... I did more than just re-learn the lesson, I internalized it to my Core. That is now an essential part of Who I Am™. I cannot imagine being anywhere else at FoV besides Cauldron.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Awesome. That's where Robin and I need you.

[klytus.livejournal.com]

The truly awesome part is that its also where I need to be for myself. Everybody wins :)

[rowanmoon69.livejournal.com]

Hubby would like to hear all about your visit down under and in return promises to give good feet. I would love to chat with you at some point during Beltane if you have the time. I'll bring chocolate! :::smiling hopefully::: :)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

OK. Let's set a time for each of these things. I wonder if we can do this outside of Beltane, since you guys are heading over to Balefire on occasion, and Beltane gets busy.

[showingup.livejournal.com]

Tomorrow: You, me, Skype - your choice of time. I can offer you nothing but blood, toil, tears and sweat love and silliness.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Yo baby, let's talk UK sci-fi TV during our next Skype session.