Beltane Musings

[sabrinamari]

This was a working Beltane in more ways than one. I need to make another big leap in personal growth this year.

Comments

[sligoe.livejournal.com]

Me, too. We'll jump together!

its funny...

[gwisteria.livejournal.com]

but i always think of you as being all done with your lessons and finally getting to just be happy and enjoying life but of course if we stop growing we die and I know this...hope to hear more about your journeys as they always give me food for thought

Personal Growth

[ingridsummers.livejournal.com]

Everytime I think I might be done with the personal growth, something else pops up. Ride the journey, sister!

[wgseligman.livejournal.com]

A "working Beltane"? How so? And what led you to feel that you need to make a big leap in growth?

[citabria]

Hmm, I'd be interested in talking to you about the leap you need to make.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

{{hug}}

Re: its funny...

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the vote of confidence...I do still have plenty of work. Right now it's about thinking through my commitments clearly, setting reasonable expectations and boundaries, not overpromising, communicating appropriately and learning to nurture both the ways I connect and the ways I set boundaries in balanced, sustainable ways. it's a tall order!

Re: Personal Growth

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Yep---that's what I've got to do.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I discovered that I had not:

thought through my commitments clearly
communicated them well
set reasonable boundaries
created the opportunity to make good connections
communicated what was happening inside myself and outside myself clearly and proactively
created rational expectations

so now, I need to consciously practice doing the above tasks until I can learn to do them more naturally.

So, just a couple of small adjustments...(yeah, right...)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

And I'd be interested in hearing your insights about these issues. Can you send me your best phone # and good times to call? Do you still have easy access to my email address?

[wgseligman.livejournal.com]

These phrases sound like the standard poly mantra. Darned smart, those poly folks. It's worth listening to them.

(I often spend some time listening to the BSDM folks, even though I'm only vanilla, I'm sugar-free vanilla. They also have a handle on communication issues.)

One minor tip from the possibly-informed: Don't be concerned with doing those things naturally. If they're always a challenge, then you're always mindful of them. That's why athames are sharp: so you're always aware of what you're doing as you work with them.