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sabrinamariDave Ramsey's 12/10/2008 iTunes podcast includes a very comprehensive, very detailed analysis of the cultural capital of 'wealth' versus the cultural capital of 'poverty'.
His language is blunt, his tone is unforgiving and his attitude is extremely judgmental. He's also dead-on accurate in much of what he says. The attitudes, beliefs and behaviors of those who create and sustain long-term wealth are very different from the attitudes, beliefs and behaviors of those who don't. It is also possible to switch categories and move from one to the other: he even begins to explain how one can go about doing this. I only wish he would explain it all in a more compassionate and less judgmental way.
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EDIT: Ramsey also includes a section on how to deal with dysfunctional family dynamics around money: this really, really helped me think more clearly about how to deal with my family's deeply ingrained money scripts, although I am still struggling to implement a new, healthier approach to combining finances, friends and family. It's HARD to change old family scripts!
My family's money scripts are very different from those that Ramsey discusses, and as M. points out, I seem to be the one *acting out* inappropriately---when I am afraid or worried about my family and friends---but similar principles apply. It's really, really helpful to hear other people think through these tough issues.
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I learned most of this contrasting cultural capital stuff by myself after my separation and divorce because I *had* to grow up. My ex-husband's large salary could no longer sustain what was essentially my unsustainable lifestyle.
I wish I had understood this sooner, but I am grateful that I learned it when I did. And I hope that the people around me learn it faster and much, much sooner than did I.
His language is blunt, his tone is unforgiving and his attitude is extremely judgmental. He's also dead-on accurate in much of what he says. The attitudes, beliefs and behaviors of those who create and sustain long-term wealth are very different from the attitudes, beliefs and behaviors of those who don't. It is also possible to switch categories and move from one to the other: he even begins to explain how one can go about doing this. I only wish he would explain it all in a more compassionate and less judgmental way.
*****
EDIT: Ramsey also includes a section on how to deal with dysfunctional family dynamics around money: this really, really helped me think more clearly about how to deal with my family's deeply ingrained money scripts, although I am still struggling to implement a new, healthier approach to combining finances, friends and family. It's HARD to change old family scripts!
My family's money scripts are very different from those that Ramsey discusses, and as M. points out, I seem to be the one *acting out* inappropriately---when I am afraid or worried about my family and friends---but similar principles apply. It's really, really helpful to hear other people think through these tough issues.
******
I learned most of this contrasting cultural capital stuff by myself after my separation and divorce because I *had* to grow up. My ex-husband's large salary could no longer sustain what was essentially my unsustainable lifestyle.
I wish I had understood this sooner, but I am grateful that I learned it when I did. And I hope that the people around me learn it faster and much, much sooner than did I.
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Date: 2008-12-11 04:43 am (UTC)Thanks for the podcast tip, dear friend.
*hugs*
- James
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Date: 2008-12-12 12:25 pm (UTC):)