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Family and changes for the better
Jan. 3rd, 2007 11:10 amI'm back from visiting home. I've read my email but still need to answer it.
Family, Craft and Birth:
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Changes
I'm working on how to create my new life as a healthier, more disciplined writer. I'm exercising again. I'm sleeping seven and a half hours a night. I'm trying to solve my own problems instead of poking my nose into everyone else's. I have some new boundaries:
I don't answer phone calls while I'm working anymore. I work from 9-5. I will return calls briefly during lunch or on my drive home.
I exercise first, and then I write in the morning and early afternoon. Lesser tasks go into the mid and late afternoon.
I don't drive at night during the winter unless it's for a scheduled circle or it's really important. If you want to see me, plan to come to me or wait until late spring.
I don't do things for people that they can and should do for themselves. Enabling doesn't help them or me. It encourages learned helplessness on their part and distracts me from solving my own problems: it's bad for both of us. When I have time I will try to extend limited help that supports people's own efforts to resolve issues.
No more than one scheduled activity a weeknight during the winter. I don't function well during the dark cold months, especially at night, and I need to shift into self-preservation mode during that time.
My goals for this year:
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And first and foremost: To maintain my health: watching Geo made it very clear why this matters so very much. Anything that gets in the way of sleeping enough, getting up early enough to exercise and eating well gets barred from my life. I want to fully enjoy the life I have right now. And I understand clearly that when your health plummets, the health, happiness and wellbeing of EVERYONE ELSE who loves you takes a nose dive. And that's a grave injustice.
Family, Craft and Birth:
( Read more... )
Changes
I'm working on how to create my new life as a healthier, more disciplined writer. I'm exercising again. I'm sleeping seven and a half hours a night. I'm trying to solve my own problems instead of poking my nose into everyone else's. I have some new boundaries:
I don't answer phone calls while I'm working anymore. I work from 9-5. I will return calls briefly during lunch or on my drive home.
I exercise first, and then I write in the morning and early afternoon. Lesser tasks go into the mid and late afternoon.
I don't drive at night during the winter unless it's for a scheduled circle or it's really important. If you want to see me, plan to come to me or wait until late spring.
I don't do things for people that they can and should do for themselves. Enabling doesn't help them or me. It encourages learned helplessness on their part and distracts me from solving my own problems: it's bad for both of us. When I have time I will try to extend limited help that supports people's own efforts to resolve issues.
No more than one scheduled activity a weeknight during the winter. I don't function well during the dark cold months, especially at night, and I need to shift into self-preservation mode during that time.
My goals for this year:
( Read more... )
And first and foremost: To maintain my health: watching Geo made it very clear why this matters so very much. Anything that gets in the way of sleeping enough, getting up early enough to exercise and eating well gets barred from my life. I want to fully enjoy the life I have right now. And I understand clearly that when your health plummets, the health, happiness and wellbeing of EVERYONE ELSE who loves you takes a nose dive. And that's a grave injustice.
