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[sabrinamari]

After a discussion about Trent's clandestine Facebook page (the one that claims he is 22):

Sabrina: "Why are all the men in my life crazy?"

Michael: "They're not all crazy. Some of them are boring. You have two choices: they can either be crazy or boring---because they're all going to be stupid."

Shocked, hysterical laughter...

Comments

[arielmn.livejournal.com]

I think he may be on to something. But 22???

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

He just successfully asked out his first girl yesterday. Told me all about it, and explained this elaborate process with notes, two go-betweens...very confusing. At least he has real determination.

[evaelisabeth.livejournal.com]

I love your icon :-) 22,that's an ambitious young man.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

He is way more advanced than I was at 11. I'm pretty impressed, actually.

[onyxtwilight.livejournal.com]

Do not tell Trent I said this... but that is kinda awesome. >:-)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

So, when Michael breaks the news last night, we're all at the table, Michael is holding back a smile quite successfully, Trent sudden;y looks terrified, and I collapse into uncontrollable laughter, gasping out, "Oh my god, your mom is going to KILL YOU!"

Many minutes later, he is looking confused and terrified, Michael is grinning like mad, and I'm croaking out, in between outbursts, "So what do we tell [his mom]? That he has this Facebook page or something more strategic?"

Trent quickly says, "I would prefer something more strategic".

And now both of us---Michael and I---are losing it and I can't help but choke out, "You friended your AUNT? Did you think she wasn't going to tell your dad?"

Poor Trent didn't know what to do. He just stood there, paralyzed, with a terrified grin, while I laughed hysterically and his dad choked out, "You're really scared of your mom, aren't you?"

He just barely nodded.

We really don't have to do anything, thank god. Just step back and stay out of of the bloodbath, and eventually collect whatever's left.

****

Living with Trent is eerily like living with my little brother when I was a kid. My brother is 8 1/2 years younger than me, so it's easy to fall right into that dynamic whenever something odd happens.

[angiedub.livejournal.com]

My grandmother used to ask me to "talk to your sister", who is 8-1/2 years younger than I am, and I'd be as clueless as she was because I never thought to do the things my sister did. I was too busy trying to be "the grownup" in the house, in addition to going to school.

But that's pretty impressive...O.o

[justusgirlz.livejournal.com]

Can you say Sandusky? It's not cute, laughable or something to leave solely to Ildeko to deal with properly. I had to deal with this with my former boss's youngest girl. Yeah, *her*. Was he asked why he did it? Why he felt he had to hide it? Why he had to lie about his age? Why he's too young to be on there? Shall I mention Sandusky one more time? Nip this in the bud and make sure that your and Ildeko's punishments are at parity. It's not fair to make her the bad guy when he's totally out of line and should be getting it with all barrels, not just Mom's.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I understand your concern, and I appreciate your love for Trent. Michael and Ildiko are handling this. By our blended family's agreement, Rich and I take a back seat in addressing major issues like this one. Once Trent's bio parents figure out how they want to handle it, they'll speak to us, and we'll collaborate with them.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

It is, in fact, funny. It is also very serious. The two can, and often do, co-exist.

[mage-imbroglio.livejournal.com]

It is being handled in a fair and even way. I have dealt with all the above questions and more. And while there are serious aspects, that doesn't stop it from having some really funny aspects. We laugh in our house.... even when we are handing you your ass.

[wgseligman.livejournal.com]

You might want to confer with C&O about this. Their daughter also established a separate on-line identity (several, I think) and was being somewhat malicious about it.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I watched them deal with some of this.

[radiant-one.livejournal.com]

I shared this with some folks at clinic today. They loved it! Kiss Michael for me.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

I will.

[angiedub.livejournal.com]

So Michael is saying men = stupid? heh! I have 3 brothers and have been married twice, plus my dad, and I'm inclined to think he's right. Not to say that I don't love them, because I do...but they DEFinitely think differently than we do, and often it's stupid...or maybe just testosterone.

[showingup.livejournal.com]

Oh, good grief! Hilarious and yet serious, too. Once we stopped laughing, T and I knew you'd have to have a serious series of talks with Trent about online security, why he was hiding it (though I remember the feeling during adolescence that everything I didn't immediately choose to share should be private, even when it wasn't a) important or b) wise), etc.

I'm really glad that you were able to show him that a situation can have aspects that are really funny and aspects that are really not at all. And I know you'll all work on him understanding just why the worry and anger are there, which a lot of people just don't do with their kids.