Friendly flailing: the challenges of friends

[sabrinamari]

It is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful to have 10,000 friends. It is also challenging to properly love them all. I live in fear that someday, some of my dear ones will walk up and deck me really frickin' hard for failing to [call them, text them, email them, visit them] back for the 6,234th time.

Actually, someone almost did this weekend. And I deserved it.

Please know that while my capacity to love is great, my capacity to respond is really kind of...[insert sad, pathetic flailing motion here].

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1TRf6u-zv2E&feature=related

Please don't hit me for being a dork.

******

In a pathetic attempt to procrastinate on work, I decided to count the people I have exchanged texts with in the last year.

113.

No wonder I am a crazy person.

Comments

[tigira.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

You're awesome. Just what moments I get every couple of years are worth the wait. :) We love you, too, you know!

Besides, that's my failing, too.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

{{{{Hugging you close}}}}

Thank you.

I think that one reason LJ is so very important to me is that it, and it alone, allow me to feed many of my relationships with people I love in a way that involves some level of intimacy. How the heck could I hope to stay on the pulse of who you are, or sustain any kind of real shared thoughts and feelings with you, without LJ?

It just couldn't happen.

LJ not only helps me stay sane by writing out my thoughts, it keeps me connected to the many, many people I love.

I keep trying to leave LJ for Dreamwidth, but that's so traumatic...

LJ is my anchor in more ways than one.

[the-smith-e.livejournal.com]

You are doing fine by me madam. :)

[wgseligman.livejournal.com]

I promise to never hit you, for being a dork nor for any other reason!

I may chide you (as I've done in the past) for slicing your time so thin with other people that you don't have time for yourself.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

chide. That's a good word. One hardly ever hears it today...

And yes, this is something I'd like to work on.

This season, I have bitten off *far* more than I can chew...

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

yay! someone I haven't dissed yet...

[wgseligman.livejournal.com]

I recently took on a very big project. It was so big that I procrastinated on it. Then someone volunteered to coach me. Among other pieces of advise, she showed me how to break down the project into pieces and goals. She also told me that if a task seemed to big to do by myself, to ask for help to do it; in other words, to know when to delegate.

Now, who was that coach? I think you know her...

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

*resting head on computer, sadly, patheticly...*

still in my office

oh woe is me

: )

[arielmn.livejournal.com]

What a wonderful idea. Who IS this shining star of a teacher? :)

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

A really big dork!

[arielmn.livejournal.com]

*I* am pretty sure she an awesome human.

[showingup.livejournal.com]

Yeah, she sounds shrewd and compassionate.

[showingup.livejournal.com]

In the spirit of "teach what you have to learn":

Chill.

Pema. Unhook the events from the shenpa around them. Examine the shenpa. Sit with it. In Buddhist terms, consider the necessity of maitri.

In B* terms, consider that you are Air, you are Fire, you are Water, you are Earth. You are all things, and all things are you. You are the God/dess's perfect child, and you are free.

In Quaker terms, ask what responsibilities you should "undertake or relinquish without undue pride or guilt", and "what love requires of you".

In Kundalini Yoga terms, remember that you are infinite, that your Guru knows your right way of being, and that if you "keep up [keep going back to practice], you will be kept up.".

In terms of all of those traditions, start where you are. And keep starting.

And if I see your fingers twitching towards that Big Stick again, I shall give you A Hard Stare and suck my teeth. Because I am tough and scary like that.

[wgseligman.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah... I forgot. The whole "delegate it to someone else" doesn't work when you're the one who accepts lots of other people's delegations.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

You are showing off, showing up. Such an excellent and enticing job of leaping from paradigm to paradigm. Sweet!

[showingup.livejournal.com]

*Snort*

[showingup.livejournal.com]

Like Bill, I had this amazing teacher who cracked open my brain and inserted some of the basics. One day, I'll be as good at it as her.