Policy Change Thoughts I

[sabrinamari]

My personal mission statement is "I am an agent of transformation and change".

I see myself as a person who works to facilitate the transformation of others and who trusts and invests in their strengths rather than in their weaknesses. I see myself as a resilient individual who trusts and invests in my own strengths, too.

But I have often fallen short of acting in alignment with my mission. I have, at times, chosen to enable others or sit quietly with what I know is dysfunctional rather than acting as though I trust in both their strengths and mine.

I get into this kind of trouble when I deviate from my mission.


I know when I am not fulfilling it: thinking about a situation, I feel weary and depressed. I sense that something is wrong, and as I reflect on what is happening, I can see that I am repeating the same ineffective actions in one or more of my relationships without getting anywhere new. Problems don't get addressed, and unhealthy situations remain unresolved.

This is the moment to stop what I am doing and change direction. This is the moment to shift/redirect myself, moving in the direction I want to go. It also means naming the problems out loud, explaining how I am going to address them, and then moving only in the direction in which I want to go.

I intend to reshape the way I relate to my partner, my friends and my students in order to meet this goal.


No one is required to come with me. Not everyone is ready to change or wants to change how and when I do. That's OK, but I need to move forward anyway. It's alright if some of the people I love don't come with me. I can wish them well as I move towards my goals. :)

Comments

[boy-pastiche.livejournal.com]

Please never hold back from supportively pointing out my errors. As a fellow Agent and self-impovement freak, I would appreciate it greatly. :)

[sligoe.livejournal.com]

Absolutely! I need to see my errors for what they are, and then I need to change how I view myself and my behaviors.

I've gone through a smaller process like this just recently, where I am looking at what I say and think to make sure it is authentic, truthful, compassionate, and loving. It's not as easy as it may sound! I want to eradicate negativity---or at the very least, severely limit it in my life. I cannot and will not act from that place of despair, doubt, and fear. I control how I act and react.

Not my fears.

[jasminewind.livejournal.com]

This post tells those of us reading that you are going through something and that you are planning on doing something different. However, it doesn't really give us any information about what wasn't working and what you are going to try next. So, deciding whether or not we are going to come with you is difficult. Would you prefer not to articulate these things in a journal posts? Shall we know about these transformations only if and when they relate to us?

I'm totally down with not sharing when it comes to nitty gritty about your relationship with M, but as a friend/fellow priestess/mentee/colleague, if I'm going to support you in these changes either by differentiating myself or by supporting you in your differentiation, more details would be helpful.

And in case you forgot, I love you.

[onyxtwilight.livejournal.com]

Got your phone message, sorry I missed your call. Plan as outlined in your email sounds good to me. :-)

Comittment!

[shades-of-nyx.livejournal.com]

Honey-
Do not doubt us so, please. At least, please do not doubt me!
I am coming with you.
Although you clothe your steel in velvet, it is your steel that I value.
We can learn, from each other, to be good to ourselves as well as others.
Both of us easily give all and keep none. Obviously, this didn't work.
So, re-frame it, re-new it, re-connect it, and re-begin it!