Avoidance

[sabrinamari]

I notice that there comes a time when avoiding things that drag you down or scare you becomes more tedious than simply doing them.

Comments

[glenmarshall.livejournal.com]

"When the need arises -- and it does -- you must be able to shoot your own dog. Don't farm it out -- that doesn't make it nicer, it makes it worse."
-- Robert Heinlein, The Notebooks of Lazarus Long"

[jeneralist.livejournal.com]

When the time came to put down my cat, the vet looked at me very oddly when I said I wanted to be the one to Do it, to push the plunger on the syringe of whatever-it-is, not her. She must not read the same SF I do.

(Wound up having the vet do it -- the cat's urgency didn't leave time for discussion.)

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

It's so true. Hard to remember at times, but always true.

Gaaaah!

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

I've been carrying around a piece of mail since Sunday, afraid to open it. I realize that this is an indication of mental illness. I know exactly what I have to do. I'm just having trouble making myself do it. If I could hire someone to clean up this particular mes for me, I would do it in a heartbeat. Can't I please stay in denial just a little while longer?

[wild-place-king.livejournal.com]

Yeah, me too. I allow myself to avoid painful issues as well. Like you I am working on it. Good luck!

[tigira.livejournal.com]

I think avoidance is a natural tendency. "Ouch, that hurts, I don't want to touch it again!"

I know that if I do that, though, it will hurt more later, and cause me anguish in the meantime. I hate that even more. Once I managed to get to the point of not doing that at work (where state regulators would come down HARD on me if I did do anything like that - I could lose my license, and therefore lose my job!), it wasn't AS difficult to apply that to my personal life.

Eh, I still avoid things that are painful to talk about. I still sometimes avoid the scary conversations. But you're right, eventually you come to the point where it's worse to avoid it than just deal with it. I hope I'm getting better about not doing that. I'm glad you are, too.

[methastra.livejournal.com]

I was going to put off replying to your post, but decided to just get it over with.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

See? Now that didn't hurt at all. : )

[sligoe.livejournal.com]

Ahhhh, the false sense of security that is avoidance, procrastination, denial! I find that, as I get better and better each day, I do these things less and less. I am SO hopeful that this means I will soon be back to my old self with new and better insights to work with.

Doncha just LOVE finding out the really GOOD stuff that is inside you?

[rio-luna.livejournal.com]

Discontent is the first step towards progress in men or nations.

Oscar Wilde

and the relief when the task is done and over with makes you feel like you lost 2 pounds.

[skyefyr.livejournal.com]

You can always tell that I'm doing this when I sleep a lot. I've turned this into an art. If I am awake I can stress on it. If I go to sleep, I can *really* avoid it. For a little while....