Surprised and happy

[sabrinamari]

Time to put up the peonies. Looks like I'm going to explore dating soon---I am starting to get asked out with some frequency. The universe seems to be responding to the personal work I did at ingridsummer's trance dance on the weekend---boy, that was fast. Or maybe it is simply I who have changed. Also, Shannon is getting 15 emails a day from potential gentleman callers and she can hardly manage the in-person attention at work and home without bruising egos. I am still shaking my head at the ease with which she meets all this attention. I can learn from her. : )

What I like about the feng-shui peony approach is that it is described as sort of a filter, encouraging/inviting only those who are appropriate, well-matched and free to engage to approach. Right now, I think that both she and I could benefit from such a thing.

What a happy surprise.

Comments

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[owllady13.livejournal.com]

WooHoo for you!!! It is a great world out there...grab it my the tail, m'dear!

I'm in the wings, rooting for you.

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

Will you tell me all about your dates so I can live vicariously through my single friend?

Re: I'm in the wings, rooting for you.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Totally! I'm starting off with dating lite, though, for a few months at least, 'cause I still have work to do on front-second-chakra issues. So it won't be that interesting for awhile.

Still, I will share what I learn and do that's not confidential for others. But it may be a little boring for awhile.

My top dating site picks may make things more interesting: museums and historical sites, dance clubs and concerts, outdoor active stuff (kayaking, hiking, biking, anything body-and-play oriented) and gym/fitness/wellness related stuff. That way, I will know that I have a strong chance of having fun even if I don't hit it off with the person I'm with. And I am as happy to make new friends as I am about else.

I have a couple of book references for you, though...you will fall off your chair laughing at them, and based on what we've talked about already, I think you'll recognize alot of the stories/suggestions.

No nookie on the first date, ever, ever, ever

[elphaba-of-oz.livejournal.com]

The hippie in me balks at this, but it's a good way to be taken seriously. I was never a rules girl, (I think manipulation is really dishonesty) but the rules girls do have a few valid points.

Of course I violated that rule with FD, but at the beginning I thought he was a throw away boyfriend. I had no way of knowing he was just waiting for someone to come along and love him.

Don't do what I do. Do what I preach. I have a long history of "giving it up" (Hate, hate hate that phrase. Amoung equals it would not be necessary) too easily, almost always with disasterous results.

Re: No nookie on the first date, ever, ever, ever

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Even though I had a chance to 'wake up' my sexuality this weekend (with absolutely no acting on it in the real world, understand), I still think this rule won't be hard for me. I just can't picture myself sleeping with someone on the first date---OK, with maybe, possibly, one single exception that is utterly unlikely to come to pass anytime in the next few months---because that's just not who i am. I just can't see it.

Actually, I can't see myself sleeping with someone on the first three dates (shrug). It's not because i'm a prude or weird or anything---I just believe that it's hard to think clearly and make good decisions once you've actually started sleeping with someone. I mean, it's hard enough when there's a strong pull and you haven't done anything at all. And I really don't want to screw things up for myself or anyone else. I don't want to be someone who chooses selfish pleasure over the ultimate wellbeing of others or myself, ever, ever, ever! So my brain needs to be able to work, to be able to override all the sweet and powerful forces that come with attraction when necessary.

of course, i will screw up at some point. i know this. but I want to stack the deck in my favor at first, to minimize my opportunities for fucking up.

Re: No nookie on the first date, ever, ever, ever

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Smiling---I have the opposite history and probably, the opposite potential problem. I think I'll have to wait for a very persistent, reasonably aggressive, sensuously assertive guy. Looks that way right now, anyway. Someone who will hang in there at first and then lead the way later.

[rio-luna.livejournal.com]

hugs. proud of you.

peony feng shui sounds like just the ticket.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Leni, I screwed up and deleted the email with your mailing address!